And not just because she's the voice of Young Anastasia.

If you pay attention to pop culture news at all, she's been getting a lot of heat for some comments she made in a Harper's Bazaar interview a couple days ago.

If you're lazy, here it is.

Now, I don't get political very often. And I have no problem when the opinion of others differ from my own, and I can respect a desire for change or progressive ideas. But I do take issue when my opinion and the opinion of millions of other women is bashed. Or when our right to have that opinion is downplayed or we are disrespected or looked down on for having that opinion.

At the risk of being crucified, I get what Kirsten Dunst was saying in the Harper's interview and I agree... simply add the words "For me." Again, this is AN OPINION: I need a man to be a man and a woman to be a women for MY relationships to work. I know and respect that that may not be true for everyone, but that is how my life and my heart works.

I am an expressly feminine woman. I like to wear dresses and skirts so much more than pants and jeans. I will have long hair until I die. I like flowery and soft and pink and sparkly things. I love newborn babies and tiny cute animals. Diamonds probably are my best friend. I enjoy chick flicks way more than action movies... and I have every right to want that as much as other women want whatever it is that works for them, that's the point to women being treated equally.

My mom was a stay at home mom by choice, and someday I hope to do lead a similar life. I look forward to being a soccer mom and cooking and creating a beautiful home and taking care of the physical, emotional and spiritual needs of my future family. 

I know not everyone feels that way, but FOR ME it's what I WANT and no one has any right to say that what I do with my future isn't valuable or right. It's my life, why should you care what I do? Is it hurting you or taking away your rights if I choose to stay at home? Is it hurting my future children if I make the choice to be a more daily part of their rearing? We are so profoundly blessed as women in this time and culture to have so many options and we should celebrate that, not jump on women who prefer the "old fashioned" stay at home track. That has tremendous value, too!

In the mid 70s when John Lennon chose to be a stay-at-home dad in the midst of such an amazing musical career, he was praised and lauded for walking away from it all and putting the welfare of his child before anything else. So why would we attack women, who we CLEARLY understand can be incredibly successful in their careers and have the same workplace capacities and abilities as men, who choose to give that up and be an integral part of the most tender responsibility of raising their children?

I think when we start attacking one another and wanting some of us to give up our desires because you fear it may "hurt your cause," it hurts all of us. We must find a way to value women for who and what they are, not simply what contributions they make based on some arbitrary scale that changes over time.

Kirsten Dunst may not have expressed herself in a way that some of you liked, but don't take it so personally, she's not leading a charge to send women back to the kitchen. In my opinion, she was really just stating what works for her (and me!) and I can respect that.

Gender equality should not mean I have to pretend to be just like a man. I'm not, I don't want to be, and I won't be. You can't make me!